What Will you Do When Something Goes Wrong at Your Wedding...

You have planned your wedding to the nth degree. The color scheme, the food, the wardrobe, the flowers, the sparkle – oh, and the groom is there too. You have envisioned your perfect wedding day and planned it down to every detail. My question to you is what will you do when something goes wrong at your wedding?

As a wedding planner, I have coordinated and celebrated hundreds of weddings. I can assure you that at every one of those weddings, at least one thing has gone wrong. It may be something simple like the caterer didn't add the pine nuts to the salad. Or it may be as big as the bride getting the stomach flu during the reception. But I am sorry to tell you it's an inevitable part of having a wedding with many moving parts, different vendors, and intricate details. And weather...but that's an article for another day.

The way you handle a wedding curveball is what defines your character. Your character is not simply how sweet and kind you are when everything is perfect. It's how you handle and carry yourself when things don't go as planned. I have worked with brides who flip out over the small stuff while others conduct themselves gracefully, even when hit with the hardest blows. I admire the brides – like the one hit with the stomach flu – who handle obstacles with dignity, grace, and kindness. Already beautiful on her wedding day, this bride’s ability to adapt made her one of the most beautiful brides I have ever seen. I have no doubt her groom and the 150 other wedding guests saw her that way too.

Going back to my initial question, how will you handle it if something goes wrong?

I can help you with this. Here is what you do. You plan for it! I absolutely guarantee at least one thing won't go as you had planned or imagined. So, plan for that one thing to go wrong. It could be little or big, but plan for it. Put this in your mind when you imagine your special day. If you are visual, envision it as a giant question mark. Over time, you become at peace with it. You smile and breathe through it. (Click here for an amazing breathing visual tool to keep on your phone for instant calming effects. The idea is to sync your breath with the images).

As you consider the worrisome possibilities, remind yourself that the real reason for all this planning is that you are getting married. Everything else is just a detail...literally. Details get jumbled, rearranged, smeared, and rained on because details are wavering...and they are just details. However, the steadiness, strength and unwavering nature of you and your fiancé taking your wedding vows will provide you with the capability to handle any imperfection of this day with dignity and grace.  

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About the Author:

As a wedding planner with a passion for wedding décor, Jaffe Wojcik started www.gracefulevents.net, a resource for event decor, wedding planning advice, and inspiration for special events. Jaffe is a work-at-home mom with two energetic children who love to dance…especially at weddings.  

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